Time flies, but it doesn't have to

Now that we have changed the clocks, I can't help but to think about time.

It all started with microwaves; ever since these devices were created, time has been compromised. It seems no one respects time anymore and everything is happening at such a rushed pace.

Now don't get me wrong, some things are beneficial, such as high-speed Internet, express mail, e-mail, smart phones, etc. These are things that are great for business and personal satisfaction.

But let's dig a little deeper, and ask the question, what does time mean to you? How do you spend your time? It's a commodity that is so precious and yet we take each second for granted as if we possess all the time in the world.

Think about the moments in your life when you wished you had more time. Did those moments involve someone that you loved? I bet they did. I just don't think that people understand the delay of gratification; because we are now in a world where whatever we want is right at our fingertips, and instantly available.

Perhaps this way of thinking is regional. As Americans and as technology advances, I believe we may have misplaced a few important values such as hard work, and on the opposite side of the spectrum, enjoying free time.

Think of the last time you wanted something so badly that you worked really hard for it. You planned and you saved and you sacrificed. The answer may surprise you. So what if it takes you 6-12 months to save up for it? You did it, and when you got it, you appreciate it.

Think about the last time you really sat down and relaxed without any distractions -- that includes Facebook, instant messaging or your Blackberry updates. I can honestly say that I can't remember the last time I unplugged from the matrix, but I can tell you the last time I was rushing and had lunch while driving. Now, that is a shame.

This practice of time abuse carries over into relationships, too. Does anyone court anymore? Do people still go on dates? Make love to music? Light candles? Take long walks? Take bubble baths or make dinner together sharing a bottle of wine?

This, too, has been replaced with instant gratification. Lean Cuisines, drive-thru, pre-packaged all-in-one 7-minute meals, pre-sliced apples! When you are so busy that you don't even have the time to slice an apple, its time for an intervention.

What is wrong with taking your time? You know, really trying to get to know the other person as a whole? I think friendships and healthier relationships would be fostered if we reverted back to the old school way of doing things. There is a different feeling involved when you have been dating that man / woman for three months and you have only held hands and kissed. But very few think on this level.

Explicit R. Kelly Lyrics, Flavor of Love "Courtships" and ever so seductive Facebook "poking" have replaced this kind of thinking. Its safe to say that this generation is doing less courting and more "sexting." This not only sets a poor example for our youth but it sucks the life right out of new marriages and existing relationships.

I have learned how to relax and really spend quality time with the ones I love. It feels better to take your time and really get to know whom you are letting into your life, learning the qualities that make them as unique as a fingerprint.

I encourage you to make time to really cook a good meal, stay out of the fast food joints -- your mind and body will thank you for it. Tell the people you love just how much you love them, but refrain from sending that text and, instead, call or write them a letter.

Lastly, teach your children the importance of hard work and its benefits. Let them know that what they work for they will later appreciate, and that lesson is timeless!

Time is infamous for running out; now that we have been given another hour, make the best of it.